Bulletin: Holy Family December 30,
2012
1 Samuel 1:20-22, 24-28; 1 John 3:1-2, 21-24; Luke 2:41-52What was family life like with Mary, Joseph and Jesus? The custom of the time had their parents living with them; I wonder if Joseph and Mary did? What was my family like? What was the holiness in my family? Every family has God present…and if God is welcomed, there is holiness. So what was holy about my family? Did I accept it or was I concerned with me and what I wanted, most kids are, and I was not an exception. So how much of the holiness was absorbed with me not getting my own way or because of the ‘disputes’ between my sisters and my brother?
Diane Bergant and Fr. JamesWallace
CSsR, two noted scholars in “Living the Word” say this,
“If
you were to choose an adjective to accompany ‘family,’ what would
it be? Holy? Or is it more likely to be ‘dysfunctional’? …
And yet, granting that every
family, like every person, is imperfect and on occasion wounds each
other in both small and big ways, we do find holiness in families.
It is the holiness that we see in Mary, Joseph, and Jesus, who cared
for and respected each other, a holiness that witnesses to the power
of God’s grace at work in hearts open to it.”
So am I open now to God’s grace working through me to help family, extended family, close friends who are really family to me? The bottom line is that it’s tough to be family. It’s tough to model lives on the Holy Family. As one author said, “In trying to live a life of family love, we are reaching beyond the stars to become like God.” So what is there in me that prevents me from ‘reaching beyond the stars? It’s a simple answer; it’s me! What was that famous Pogo line, I have met the enemy and he is I. The actual quote is, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” And I think the real enemy is that I just don’t love me the way that God loves me…and I might add I don’t think that God could love me when I don’t love me. This is a constant battle I wage within myself.
One author says the Dennis Linn &
Matthew Linn‘s book on ‘Healing Life’s Hurts; Healing Memories
through the Five stages of Forgiveness’ is the most complete book
on inner healing that he has ever read. I quote from the Linn’s
book, “All Americans suffer some
emotional instability. Some psychologists say that seventeen out of
twenty of us are neurotic and one in five will be treated for mental
illness because Jung is right. Even illness which seems to be
organic, as illness that is hereditary or due to an imbalance of
endocrine secretions, is often triggered and prolonged by a lack of
self-love.
Unfortunately,
when we don’t love ourselves, we behave in a way that makes it
harder to love ourselves. We cover our insecurity by broadcasting
our success, criticizing whoever isn’t present, renting a dark
corner for our shyness, becoming overextended and unable to say ‘no,’
criticizing ourselves to get sympathy, taking no risks that might
final, and agreeing with those who like the weather and those who
don’t. It’s a vicious circle in which we become less lovable the
less we love ourselves.
Lack of self-love is the root of
all sin. I get proud and stand on my soapbox when I am frowning at
myself inside. When I am angry at myself, I jump down another’s
throat. Lust attacks when I need intimacy to assure myself that I am
lovable. Sloth anchors me when I feel I have little to give. The
graph of when I loved myself most and least in my life matches the
graph of when I sinned most and least. When I most need to
experience God’s acceptance, I feel He is most distant because of
my sin.”
And God absolutely loves me all the time and this was why He sent Jesus: to let me know and each person know that I am loved, that we are loved unconditionally, all of the time. I have a sign in my office given to me by my sister, “Remember … Ask God how much He is loving me right now … “ I have found that I have to repeatedly have to look at this…reflect on it…and be still…so that I can un-busy myself and L I S T E N !!!
So I go and look at Jesus and how He showed His love and how I need to show love in His family of all people:
Mark 6:56…”Whatever villages or towns or countryside He entered, they laid the sick in the marketplaces and begged Him that they might touch only the tassel on His cloak; and as many as touched it were healed.” Do I go to Him when I’m sick over myself and my sins? He does love me.
Mark 10:13…”And people were bringing children to Him that He might touch them, but the disciples rebuked them, When Jesus saw this He became indignant and said to them, ‘Let the children come to me; do not prevent them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Amen, I say to you, whoever does not accept the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it.’ Then He embraced them and blessed them, placing His hands on them.” And He does this to me…embracing me in love…so why is it difficult to love me when God loves me?
Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart, and you will find rest for yourselves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden light.” How can I not come to the Lord who is absolutely this in love with me?
Matthew 6:25-26: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you eat (or drink) or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds in the sky; they do not sow or reap, they gather nothing into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are not you more important than they? ... If God so clothes the grass of the field which grows today and is thrown into the over tomorrow, will he not much more provide for you, O you of little faith?” This is the God who cares for me all the time; is totally in love with me. What is my problem with me?
Luke 4: 40…”At sunset, all who had people sick with various diseases brought them to Him. He laid His hands on each of them and cured them.” Each person is important; He’s saying the same of me.
Luke 15:11…The Prodigal son…the lost son “went back to his father. While he was still a long way off, his father caught sight of him, and was filled with compassion. He ran to his son, embraced him and kissed him.” Jesus is telling that this is how the Father looks on each person…sinner or saint; so do I come to receive His love?
John 10: 11ff…”I am the good shepherd. A good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep…I am the good shepherd, and I know mine and mine know me.” Every time I say Lord, God knows it is my voice calling and He comes in love…in mercy…in compassion. This is what it means to be in God’s family and how God loves me and all.